So I have what I can only describe as a quandary (though I'm still not sure if that is the right word...)
My mom always asks me when she is going to get grandchildren to spoil, she had quite a habit of mentioning it...... and I've never had it in my heart to tell her about my sexuality -_-
She hasn't mentioned it in quite a while though...
Another thing I've noticed is that I have no idea if my sexuality is blatantly obvious or not. >.> I noticed that I like to sit with my legs crossed all the time, and I never see any other boys sit like that. Ever. I just would like to know if my mannerisms point it out to everyone >.>
One last thing (yet slightly more happy lol)
There is this really cute boy in my Diff EQs class... I just want to tackle and hug him haha
Unfortunately jumping on someone I don't know that well might raise some suspicions XD
I've spoken to him a couple times, and he's nice.. but I don't think he's gay though D:
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My mom also does that with grandchild, and I'm just 19...
Jeremy
Unfortunately your mom will get grandchildren from you right after my mom gets then from me. But you know you can adopt here and get married so maybe you simply tell her after you get married
ok so you really want to know lets have lunch and i will tell you, how about that dump johnny's if its still open lol, no really you name the place
Diff eq's what a great class, but i would get him drunk then its ok for straight boys to jump on each other :P
take care and be safe
bob
Hahahaha thanks for the suggestion bob XD
"… *might* raise suspicions" indeed LOL
As for telling your mom, I think a lot depends on how you think she might react. After I was out to my parents, I never got asked again (naturally enough), and my mom kept asking my (still single) older bro. So if you tell her, the questions may stop, but at what price, if any? When the questions become more uncomfortable than being out, it may be time to tell. But maybe she has stopped asking because she has figured something out (or suspects and doesn't want to know).
Which brings us to mannerisms. The only way you'll know is if someone says something. But most people are too polite. So you have to wait for someone pushy to ask you, and then get pushy right back: ask why he or she thinks so, and insist on getting an answer, even ask if it's something about your mannerisms. But I think as long as other people don't have a problem, you don't have a problem.
That brings us to ma
guess what - whether your mom gets grandchildren should have nothing to do with your sexuality - so I agree with bob - tell her she gets them after you get married and leave it at that
diff eq - I just had a small hot flash from a dark corner of my brain
naturegesetz is, as always, the voice of reason and wisdom - although it looks like he didn't finish his comment?
Sounds like you've got some of the same confusion that many of us go through, in the pre-coming-out phase, if you will. I think Moms often know anyway, whether or not they want to admit it / whatever their opinion is / how they will react.
I'm not quite sure if crossing your legs is a flaming mannerism LOL. But, I suppose, there are plenty of perfectly (oh my god I almost said "normal") - completely - heterosexual people who act so damn effeminate its confusing as hell. And vice versa.
I'll use my job, today as a matter of fact. short version (lol). no one ever thinks im gay. although my gay friends tell me i am a swishy flaming queen. I DO notice that I tend to do a sort of limp-wristed thing just sort of not focusing on putting my arms down, which to me seems a rather obvious (and stereotypical, sure) sign.
On the other hand (if you've been following my blog) - Pixie Boy. I'd wager everything that he is str8. But he's very effeminate. In fact today I notice HIM doing a sort of limp-wristed thing with his hand. So - its sort of confusing all around. And these days, add in the "metrosexual" angle, and no one knows who is what, etc.
btw: there is also another straight guy who was wearing a skirt the other day, and today he was doing pirouettes in the back room, go figure. LOL.
:)
haha! Hurray for cute boys in class! For some classes it was the only reason I attended regularly :-)
And hurray for Diff Eq~! Are you physics, math, comp sci major? Or just doing it for fun?
My mother pokes around at the same thing ALL THE TIME! I keep telling her that I have no interest in getting married- EVER. Just to try and squash her expectations over time...but its not working. She thinks Im just 'really busy' with work/school.
Much Love,
Steve
make an audio clip in which you read one of your blogs out loud. Post it. We can vote. XD
I think voices reveal a lot... sometimes. I know it is a stereotype, but damnit, it seems so accurate like 80% of the time. Leg crossing... yep. just IMHO
omg...i know exactly how you feel. my mom is always asking me when i am going to find a nice girl and stuff like that. as for crossing legs...idk...a lot of very straight guys do that, and i work with many of them. i wonder if i do anything "gay" that ppl might pick up on? but, i am 32 and have never had a girlfriend. my guess is that a lot more people suspect i'm gay than i realize. as for telling my mom, she would flip out and disown me. about wanting to tackle guys and hug them...i am in love with a guy i work with. every time i see him, i feel so happy and i must literally glow. i just want to throw my arms around him and give him a hug and plant a kiss on his perfectly kissable lips. :)
Thanks guys... I always felt bad for not telling her -_- I don't feel so bad anymore.
@Planetx- I'm in chemical engineering, so diff eqs was required
Maybe she already know about you?
Yes, I have considered that, and suspect it may be the case... it's really hard to be sure.
Mums always know - even if they don't always admit it to themselves.
Crossing your legs is rarely good for you, and is a dead give-away around here! So I wear a pink jelly band and rainbow bracelet*, just in case there is any doubt left!
Have a wonderful day.
G =]
*My kids gave me the jelly one
XD
You know, I think I'd like to have kids regardless of what happens. If I end up with a guy or stay single, I will have kids one day.
Just because you're gay doesn't necessarily prevent her from wanting grandchildren if she REALLY wants them bad. She might just start harping on you to adopt in the future. :P
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